Author: Ramin Khanzada

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“A Legacy of Education”

Imagine being a child, desperate for a new pair of shoes, but the only shoes you have are cheap plastic ones. Your father promises to buy you what you want, but when the time comes, he can’t deliver.


Today, I’ll share how my father’s sacrifices and his powerful belief in the value of education shaped my journey, helped me overcome challenges, and inspired me to create a better future for my children.

The Struggle with Poverty and Material Desires

When I was in 4th grade, I looked around at all my classmates and saw them wearing shiny, fancy shoes. They walked into class with such confidence, their shoes gleaming and new, while I sat there in my plastic shoes—worn, cracked, and barely holding together. I wanted those fancy shoes more than anything. I wanted to feel like I belonged, like I wasn’t different. I asked my father, begged him for those shoes, hoping he would understand how badly I wanted them. I remember the look in his eyes when he promised, “When your shoes wear out, I’ll get you the fancy shoes you want.” I held on to that promise like a lifeline. Every day, I looked at my shoes, hoping they would fall apart so I could finally wear something that would make me feel normal.

But when the day came, when my plastic shoes finally gave up on me, I went to my father, my heart racing with anticipation. I thought, This is it. He’s going to keep his promise. But when he came home that evening, instead of the fancy shoes I had dreamed of, he brought me plastic shoes. I felt the ground fall away beneath me. The tears started to burn in my eyes, but I couldn’t let them show. I felt my heart break in a way I couldn’t explain. It wasn’t just that the shoes weren’t what I wanted, it was that the one thing I had asked for, the one thing that felt like it would make me worthy of my classmates’ world, was something my father couldn’t give me.

I was so embarrassed. I couldn’t understand why he couldn’t just get me those shoes. It wasn’t like it was asking for the moon. Why couldn’t I have something as simple as fancy shoes? I felt like I didn’t matter, like I wasn’t important enough to deserve the same things everyone else had. I didn’t just feel different, I felt invisible. And as I held those new plastic shoes in my hands, I felt smaller than I ever had before. The other kids would see my shoes and know—I was the one left out. I wasn’t part of their world. I wasn’t good enough.

Main Point 2: A Father’s Sacrifice and Wisdom
The next day, I didn’t go to school. I stayed home, too embarrassed to face my classmates, too ashamed to walk through the door with my plastic shoes. I thought if I just stayed hidden, no one would notice how different I was. When my father came home that evening, I overheard my mother telling him that I hadn’t gone to school. I froze, feeling a wave of dread wash over me. I was terrified. I thought he would be furious. I imagined him coming into the room, his eyes burning with anger, ready to punish me for my defiance. Why didn’t you go to school? I braced myself for the beating I thought was coming.

But when he came to me, he didn’t raise his hand. He didn’t shout. Instead, he sat down beside me, his face soft and full of concern. His voice was gentle, but firm. “I know you’re upset,” he said. “I can see it in your eyes. But life is tough, Ramin. I am doing the best I can for you, and I wish I could give you everything you want. But what I can give you, more than anything, is an education. You keep studying, you work hard, and one day, you won’t just be able to buy shoes—you’ll be able to buy a better life. You’ll be able to create the future you dream of.”

In that moment, something changed inside me. I wasn’t just hearing words. I was feeling them, deep in my heart. I realized then that the shoes weren’t what I needed to feel whole. It wasn’t the fancy shoes, the thing I thought would define me, that would make me happy. What I needed, what I truly needed, was the knowledge my father was trying to give me—the understanding that education was the key to unlocking everything I dreamed of. My father, despite all the things he couldn’t provide, was offering me something far more valuable than material possessions: he was giving me the power to change my life. He was giving me the chance to rise above the poverty that had defined our world.

His words washed over me like a wave of understanding. He couldn’t give me fancy shoes, but he was giving me something far greater—the opportunity to create my own future, to carve out a life filled with possibilities, not limitations. I didn’t need to be defined by the things I didn’t have. I had the chance to create a life where I could have everything I ever wanted, not just for myself, but for my children, for the future.

Main Point 3: The Role of Education in Changing My Future

My father’s words became the foundation upon which I built my future. I realized that if I wanted to break free from the cycle of poverty, the key was education. It wasn’t just about good grades, it was about honoring my father’s sacrifices, the dreams he had for me that he could never fulfill himself. I threw myself into my studies, not only to succeed but to show him that his belief in me wasn’t misplaced. Education became my lifeline, my way out, the bridge to a life I once thought was unreachable.

As the years went by, I began to understand just how profound my father’s gift was. He couldn’t give me wealth or material possessions, but he gave me the most powerful tool of all—knowledge. That was the tool that would change everything. Today, as I study Communication Studies at Diablo Valley College (DVC) in California, I realize that I am living a dream my father could never have imagined for himself. His hope for me was that I would rise above the limitations of our circumstances, and in pursuing my education, I am finally fulfilling that dream.

Education opened doors I never thought was possible. It gave me the opportunity to break free from a life of hardship and create a future I once thought was out of touch. And in doing so, I am carrying my father’s legacy forward—one of sacrifice, hope, and the belief that a better life can be built through the power of learning.

Passing on the Legacy to My Children

In August 2024, when I enrolled my son in school, my wife bought him a pair of fancy shoes, the same kind I had always dreamed of as a child. As I watched him put them on, I was overwhelmed with emotion. It wasn’t just about the shoes themselves, but what they represented: a better life, the life my father had always wanted for me, and the life I now have the privilege of providing for my children. In that moment, I realized that I had come full circle. The dream my father had for me—to give me a future beyond the limitations of our circumstances—was now being realized through my own children.

Tears filled my eyes not out of sadness, but out of profound gratitude. I was witnessing a tangible reflection of all the sacrifices, all the struggles, and all the hopes that had shaped my own life. It was a reminder that the very things I once lacked, material comforts, opportunities—were now within my reach, and I was able to offer them to my own children. But more importantly, I was able to offer them the one thing that truly mattered: education.

As I shared this experience with my wife and children, I told them, “You are incredibly fortunate to live in a place where education is within your reach and where your parents can provide for you. Never take that for granted. Education is the key to everything. It’s the foundation upon which you will build your future.”

In that moment, I felt a deep sense of purpose. I want my children to understand that their future will not be shaped by material things, but by the knowledge they gain, the hard work they put in, and the choices they make. Just as my father’s words guided me, I am now passing that same belief in the power of education on to them. My father gave me the opportunity to change my life, and now, I have the honor of doing the same for my children. This cycle of hope, sacrifice, and opportunity is what keeps me going, and it’s what I want my children to carry forward.

Closing Thought:
Education is the foundation for everything we want in life. It is the most powerful tool we can use to build a better future—not just for ourselves, but for our families and our communities. My father’s sacrifice gave me the gift of education, and I will ensure my children understand its value. Thank you.

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Friends

“My Experience with the McAfee Family”

Have you ever stepped into a world so different from your own that it transformed your perspective on life?

My experience staying with the McAfee family was just that—a heartfelt immersion into American culture that illuminated the resilience and openness we can all share.

From July 12 to July 28, I had the incredible opportunity to stay with Ralph and LeeAnne McAfee as part of a co-serve servant leadership program. This experience allowed me to connect with individuals from a background wonderfully different from my own, and it was truly eye-opening.

Before this journey, my interactions were primarily within my own cultural community. The McAfees welcomed me into their home with open arms, treating me like family in a way I hadn’t anticipated. Their warm hospitality touched my heart; LeeAnne lovingly prepared meals for me, each dish a reminder of the familial love I cherish back home in Afghanistan. Yet, I was also introduced to American dishes I had never tasted before, igniting my curiosity about their culinary traditions and deepening my appreciation for their culture.

Despite the differences, I discovered common ground in our shared values of hospitality and kindness. Just as in my culture, where we honor our guests with warmth and respect, the McAfees embodied those same principles. Our conversations flowed effortlessly, revolving around cultural traditions—especially marriage and family—revealing striking similarities in our values, despite our different customs.

One of the highlights of my stay was hiking together to a breathtaking waterfall. The journey was not just about reaching the destination; it was about bonding over shared experiences and enjoying nature’s beauty together. We also celebrated my graduation from the program, a moment filled with joy and camaraderie as we took pictures and created lasting memories.

My cultural background shaped my perception profoundly. Coming from Afghanistan, I hold a strong sense of community and hospitality close to my heart, making me even more grateful for the McAfees’ generosity. Their kindness resonated deeply, reaffirming that the bonds of humanity can bridge any divide.

Overall, my time with Ralph and LeeAnne McAfee was not merely an opportunity to engage with a different culture; it was a transformative journey of personal growth. I learned the invaluable importance of openness and acceptance, recognizing that our differences can enrich our understanding of one another. This experience taught me that hospitality knows no borders, and that kindness and respect are universal truths.

I left their home with a deeper appreciation for American culture and a renewed understanding of the profound connections we can forge across cultural divides. It’s a reminder that, no matter where we come from, our shared humanity can create bonds that transcend any boundary.

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Education

“Having Difficult Conversations in the Virtual World”

As part of my personal development journey through the IRC’s learning opportunities, I recently completed the insightful course, “Having Difficult Conversations in the Virtual World.” This course proved to be a transformative experience, providing me with essential skills for navigating challenging discussions—a crucial leadership ability that strengthens relationships and fosters effective team growth in professional, volunteer, and personal contexts.

What I found particularly valuable was how the course addressed the complexities of virtual communication, which I encounter frequently in my remote work. In a virtual environment, where non-verbal cues are often absent and managing conflicts or delivering constructive feedback can be more challenging, this course equipped me with practical techniques to handle these conversations with confidence and skill.

Key Learnings:

  • Effective Communication: Master the core elements of communication that enhance both professional and personal interactions.
  • Active Listening: Cultivate and apply active listening skills to better understand and engage with others.
  • Emotional Dynamics: Gain insight into how emotions play a crucial role in difficult conversations and how to manage them effectively.
  • Conflict Role: Explore the dynamics of conflict and its impact on conversations, and learn strategies to address it constructively.
  • Conversation Framework: Develop a structured approach to guide and resolve challenging discussions.
  • Virtual Strategies: Implement effective strategies for managing difficult conversations in a virtual setting, ensuring clarity and constructive outcomes.

Overall, this course has not only enriched my ability to handle tough conversations but also enhanced my overall communication skills across various spheres of my life. Whether dealing with professional challenges, volunteering efforts, or personal matters, the knowledge gained is invaluable and universally applicable.

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Thoughts

“Lessons on Borrowing and Lending”

Money plays a significant role in our lives, serving as a tool that can greatly influence our stability, security, and overall well-being. While it cannot buy happiness directly, having adequate financial resources can alleviate stress, create opportunities for growth, and provide a sense of security that contributes to a more fulfilling life. However, the way we manage our money, particularly in terms of borrowing and lending, can have profound effects on our relationships and personal happiness.

My own journey has vividly illustrated these truths. In various phases of my life, I encountered financial difficulties that led me to borrow money from friends. I hoped that these temporary solutions would help me through tough times without straining my relationships. I also lent money to others, believing that my support would strengthen our bonds and offer them the relief they needed. Despite my best intentions, these actions often led to unexpected complications and strains on my relationships.

One of the most challenging lessons came when I needed to recover the money I had lent. Many of the friends I had helped were unable to repay me, which was especially difficult during personal crises, such as when I was ill or when my daughter was sick. The disappointment of not receiving the support I had hoped for, despite having extended so much help, was deeply disheartening. When I found myself struggling to pay my rent and needed assistance, the friends I had once supported were not there for me. This lack of reciprocity intensified my feelings of isolation and helplessness.

Yet, amidst these trials, I also experienced the profound generosity of friends who stepped up during my most desperate times. Their support when I was unwell and when my daughter was sick was invaluable. Their kindness highlighted the true meaning of friendship and genuine compassion, providing me with a lifeline when I needed it most.

These experiences have taught me a crucial lesson: while the impulse to help others is natural, borrowing and lending money can lead to complications and misunderstandings. Money has a tendency to strain relationships and create difficulties that are hard to resolve. It’s essential to build a strong financial foundation through prudent budgeting and saving so that we can navigate life’s challenges independently and avoid risking our relationships.

My heartfelt recommendation is to save as much money as possible. In times of need, you may find that there are no readily available sources of support, and you could face very tough situations. By preparing financially, you ensure that you can handle unexpected challenges on your own, preserving both your financial stability and your relationships.

In conclusion, my journey has underscored the importance of financial independence and maintaining clear boundaries in our relationships. Managing our finances wisely and appreciating the genuine support we receive allows us to safeguard our future and honor the valuable connections in our lives. True support is about understanding our own limits and nurturing the relationships that truly enrich our lives.

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Immigration

“From Hope to Hardship”

As an immigrant who arrived in the United States in April 2022, I came with dreams of a new beginning and a fresh start, filled with hope and anticipation. After the devastating fall of Afghanistan on August 15, 2021, I envisioned America as a land of opportunity where I could rebuild my life and secure a brighter future for my family. I imagined a place where my hard work would be rewarded, where stability and prosperity were within reach. I dreamt of finding a good job, a comfortable home, and a chance to finally experience the freedom and security that had been elusive in my homeland. The promise of America was a beacon of hope, a vision of success and happiness that seemed just within my grasp. But as I soon discovered, the reality of life in the United States was far from the ideal I had imagined, revealing a far harsher and more challenging landscape than I had ever anticipated.

The financial burden was immediate and overwhelming. Despite the promises of support, the assistance I received was severely limited. The maximum direct aid of $1,025 per person, known as “Welcome Money,” was only enough to cover rent and security deposits, with just $150 to $200 allocated for both adults. There was no further rental assistance, and sometimes, community partners like MCC might provide a month of Zakat for rent after a rigorous assessment—if you met their requirements.

Refugees who come to the United States legally are eligible for public benefits. For a family of four, this means $1,366 each month, with $650 to $750 allocated for food. However, after the second month, the case is discontinued, and food benefits increase to $920 if one adult secures a job making at least $2,000 per month. Once the income reaches $4,200, all benefits are abruptly cut off. In a housing market where two-bedroom apartments cost between $2,300 and $3,000—and often exceed $2,800 to $3,000 when including utilities, laundry, home insurance, electricity, garbage, sewer, and water—this support falls alarmingly short. With additional car expenses of $150 for insurance or financing, families are left with almost nothing to cover their daily living costs.

My journey began with a mechanical shop job, a field entirely unfamiliar to me. The work was incredibly challenging, as I had no prior experience in mechanics and had to learn on the job. I struggled with complex repairs and unfamiliar tools, which made every day a test of patience and skill. Despite the difficulties, I took on this job to support my family, navigating a steep learning curve while grappling with the physical demands of the role. But I took it on to support my family and manage our living expenses. In addition, I worked as a DoorDash delivery driver. For just $6 per delivery, I frequently traveled 6 to 10 miles to pick up food and another 15 miles to deliver it. This role demanded relentless precision and perseverance. Navigating to the correct apartment, carefully placing the food at the door, and taking a photo of the delivery were small yet significant challenges. Each task is added to the daily grind, making the work both physically and mentally exhausting.

After some time, I realized that the mechanical job was not for me and started looking for a better opportunity. Within my second month in the United States, I managed to secure a job with IRC as a caseworker assistant. At the same time, I activated my Amazon Flex account. On weekends and late into the day, I took packages without knowing where they would be delivered. My first package was valued at $75. As I began delivering, I encountered remote areas in Oakland, which presented their own set of challenges. I spent five hours driving avenue by avenue late into the night, almost until 11 PM, to complete the delivery. The biggest challenge was the intense drive to the Amazon hub; arriving late meant missing packages, and missing this window even once could lead to account deactivation. One day, I got stuck in traffic and missed opportunities, which led to my account being suspended after three occurrences, with no chance for reactivation.

After a year of holding my driving license, I finally managed to activate my Lyft account, bringing a glimmer of hope as I began driving for Lyft and Uber. However, the job proved to be a grueling challenge. For just $5 per ride, I had to drive 7 to 12 minutes to pick up a rider and then another 10 to 15 minutes to drop them off. The job was physically demanding and mentally exhausting, requiring long hours and constant vigilance. I had to navigate traffic, deal with unpredictable passenger behavior, and maintain a high level of customer service. Passengers would occasionally report issues such as being too talkative, too quiet, or even complaints about cleanliness or driving speed. Accumulating more than five such reports could lead to permanent deactivation of my account, adding to the pressure. An attempt to add a new car led to my account being deactivated due to an incomplete inspection form. Despite my best efforts to resolve the issue, the account remains inactive. The job required grueling 12-hour shifts over weekends, just to earn between $250 and $300, while the wear and tear on my vehicle rapidly diminished its value. The constant stress and the financial strain made it a relentless and challenging endeavor.

Although I am fortunate to have an education and the ability to navigate these challenges, many refugees who do not speak English face an even harsher reality. They are often trapped in cycles of anxiety and depression, overwhelmed by the uncertainty of their new lives.

Access to healthcare poses a significant challenge for refugees, as the system is often complex and difficult to navigate. Scheduling necessary appointments becomes nearly impossible due to this complexity. Activating MyChart accounts, which are crucial for managing health services, can be a lengthy and frustrating process. Without access to MyChart, refugees may spend hours on the phone just trying to secure an appointment. Even when they manage to get one, urgent care visits can involve waits of up to four hours, adding to their stress and frustration. This prolonged wait time exacerbates their suffering and compounds the overall difficulty of managing their health in an unfamiliar system. The combination of bureaucratic hurdles and long wait times contributes to a sense of helplessness and intensifies the challenges faced by those seeking care.

Education for children presents an additional layer of difficulty for refugee families. Parents must navigate school districts that are often stretched to their limits, with enrollment processes that can be lengthy and cumbersome. Securing spots in schools can be a drawn-out battle, especially in areas with high demand. For families with multiple children, the challenges multiply, requiring careful coordination and significant effort. Without reliable transportation, getting children to school regularly becomes a daunting task. The lack of a vehicle can mean long commutes or even missing school altogether, compounding the stress and uncertainty faced by these families. Ensuring that children receive an education while juggling other pressing concerns often feels like an insurmountable challenge, adding to the overall burden of resettlement.

Despite the overwhelming stress and constant challenges, I am resolute in my commitment to building a better future for my children. The difficulties of life here are so profound that I often find tears welling up in my eyes, and my heart feels weighed down with sadness. Yet, the reality of Afghanistan’s worsening situation makes it clear that returning is not an option. We face immense struggles, but there is no hope for improvement if we go back. Therefore, I am determined to accept and adapt to our new life, striving to turn every obstacle into an opportunity. This journey is painful, but it fuels my resolve to provide a brighter, more secure future for my family, despite the hardships that continue to test our resilience.

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Education

Insights from My “Leaders of Learning”

In the span of just two months, I ventured into the world of “Leaders of Learning” on edX, a journey that has been nothing short of a revelation. This course, offered by HarvardX, was more than an educational endeavor—it was a profound voyage into the heart of leadership and personal growth.

Imagine uncovering the secrets to not only leading with vision but also cultivating an environment where learning is the lifeblood of innovation. This course has been a beacon of insight, illuminating the path to effective leadership with clarity and purpose. Here’s why this transformative experience is a must for anyone seeking to elevate their professional journey:

This course is not just about learning; it’s about transforming how you lead and think. Here’s why this investment in yourself is absolutely worth it:

  1. Strategic Leadership Insights: I uncovered profound insights into strategic leadership, gaining the tools needed to drive success and inspire my team with newfound clarity.
  2. Creating a Learning Culture: I learned the art of fostering a thriving culture of continuous learning, which is essential for any organization looking to stay ahead in today’s fast-paced world.
  3. Practical Tools and Strategies: The course equipped me with actionable strategies to implement learning initiatives, manage teams effectively, and make decisions that elevate performance.
  4. Enhanced Leadership Skills: My ability to motivate and manage change has greatly improved, allowing me to handle challenges with greater confidence and effectiveness.
  5. Boosting Self-Confidence: Gaining new skills and applying them has boosted my confidence, making me eager to take on new challenges with enthusiasm.
  6. Unlocking New Potential: The course has unlocked potential I didn’t know I had, empowering me to pursue goals with a strategic and innovative mindset.

If you’re contemplating whether this course is worth your time, I can confidently say it’s an investment in yourself that will yield incredible returns. “Leaders of Learning” isn’t just a course—it’s a catalyst for growth, leadership, and success.

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Education

“Reflections on the 2024 Oregon Servant Leadership Academy”

Learning is a fundamental aspect of my lifelong journey of growth and discovery, and this year, I had the profound privilege of participating in the 2024 Oregon Servant Leadership Academy. This 17-day program united energetic participants from Kazakhstan, Nigeria, Ukraine, and Afghanistan, offering a comprehensive exploration of servant leadership. We discovered that servant leadership transcends a mere management philosophy; it embodies a deep commitment to understanding and serving others with empathy, integrity, and self-awareness.

Throughout the course, I engaged with remarkable individuals whose actions consistently reflected their words. Their inspiring leadership illuminated the path of servant leadership, demonstrating its critical relevance in both personal and societal contexts. I learned the art of intentional listening and embraced others’ needs and concerns with a non-judgmental attitude.

Our journey in the program involved a thorough exploration of leadership principles and their practical applications. We immersed ourselves in the core principles of servant leadership, focusing on developing the skills and mindset required to lead with empathy and integrity. The program was further enriched by visits to various companies and organizations, where we observed servant leadership in action. These hands-on experiences provided valuable insights into the practical application of these principles and their tangible benefits on organizational culture and team dynamics. Engaging with leaders and employees, we asked insightful questions and observed the impact of servant leadership practices. Each visit was followed by debrief sessions, where we collectively reflected on our observations and insights, fostering a deeper understanding of servant leadership.

Throughout the program, we were graciously hosted by 20 families who provided accommodation, meals, and transportation. Their hospitality greatly enhanced our experience, making our journey both comfortable and enriching.

A significant aspect of the program was the deep self-reflection and understanding it facilitated. We dedicated extensive time to working on our Talent Shields, frameworks designed to help us identify and appreciate our unique strengths and talents. This process involved exploring our personality types through the elements—earth, fire, water, and wind—and recognizing how these traits influence our leadership styles. Through guided activities and introspective exercises, each of us gained valuable insights into our individual missions and core motivations. This self-awareness clarified who we are and how we can leverage our talents to contribute meaningfully to our teams and organizations, aligning our personal values with our professional goals for a more authentic and purpose-driven approach to leadership.

During this period, I had the pleasure of meeting numerous families, with special gratitude for two exceptionally kind families who welcomed me as one of their own. Their hospitality and shared experiences provided life lessons that have significantly shaped my personal growth.

The program also offered an excellent opportunity to connect with exceptional individuals. I had the pleasure of meeting kind and sociable students from Kazakhstan, whose warmth and friendliness enriched the experience. Elisha, a very nice and lovely person, made a memorable impact with his kindness. Additionally, Elina from Ukraine, characterized by her emotional, energetic, and strong personality, brought a unique and uplifting spirit to our group.

I extend my deepest gratitude to the distinguished instructors who made this program extraordinary. Special thanks go to Mr. Marshall, the visionary founder of the Co-Serve program, whose leadership and dedication were truly inspiring. A special acknowledgment is also due to Mr. Daniel Ballast, a paragon of servant leadership. Having previously taught us in Herat-ILD, Mr. Ballast’s return as an instructor was a profound honor. His teachings, rooted in deep empathy and practical wisdom, provided a transformative learning experience. Mr. Ballast’s commitment to servant leadership and his ability to convey complex concepts with clarity and passion significantly enriched our understanding and application of these principles, illuminating the path to leading with integrity and compassion.

I am equally grateful to Anya Kabardina Volf, the exceptional program coordinator from Kazakh American Free University. Anya’s dedication and organizational acumen were pivotal in ensuring the smooth execution of the program. Her meticulous attention to detail, combined with her warm and approachable demeanor, created an environment where learning and personal growth flourished.

I am also deeply thankful for the invaluable contributions of Mr. Gilbert Gleason, a passionate servant leader and esteemed author. Mr. Gleason’s extensive knowledge and unwavering dedication to the principles of servant leadership significantly enriched our program. Reconnecting with Mr. Gary Williams, who had previously taught us in Afghanistan in 2010, was particularly meaningful. His authenticity and genuine concern for others have been instrumental in shaping our understanding of servant leadership principles. His ability to inspire and motivate through example, combined with his profound knowledge and experience, provided us with invaluable lessons on leading with compassion, responsibility, and integrity.

Additionally, we were honored by the presence of Ms. Marilyn and Mr. Terry, a gracious couple who traveled from another state to contribute their time and expertise. Their participation was a highlight of the program, bringing fresh perspectives and a wealth of knowledge that greatly enhanced our learning experience. The support from Mr. Jonathan Martin and his wife was equally invaluable, providing additional depth and enrichment to the program.

Ms. Ronnie McKay, who traveled from Colorado, shared profound insights that further elevated the quality of our discussions and understanding. Her contributions added significant value and were deeply appreciated by all participants.

Moreover, I would like to express my sincere gratitude to Dan Barry, whose exceptional skills in capturing videos and photographs, as well as conducting interviews, documented our journey with remarkable professionalism. His efforts not only preserved our memories but also provided a visual narrative that beautifully encapsulated the essence of our program.

Throughout this program, the instructors and facilitators planted profound seeds of love, hope, courage, and humanity within us. These values are not mere abstract ideals but foundational principles that are crucial to transformative and compassionate leadership. The deep focus on love and hope has been particularly impactful. Love, in this context, signifies a genuine care for others and a commitment to their well-being, while hope represents the belief in positive change and the potential for growth and improvement. By instilling these values, the program has inspired us to lead with heartfelt compassion and a vision for a better future.

We have learned to approach leadership with an open heart, fostering environments where love and hope can thrive. This nurturing has empowered us to uplift those around us, instill confidence in their abilities, and drive collective progress. The emphasis on these principles has not only reshaped our leadership approach but has also equipped us to inspire and enact positive change in our communities and organizations. By integrating love and hope into our leadership practices, we are committed to creating a more empathetic and hopeful world, where every action is guided by the profound belief in the potential for goodness and transformation.

Moreover, it was a privilege to reconnect with long-time friend Mr. Abdul Aziz Samam and to forge new friendships with Afghan colleagues, Mr. Rafi and Mr. Kamwar. Their camaraderie and support significantly enhanced the depth and value of this program.

The principled and scholarly approach of the program offered practical insights into embodying servant leadership principles. We learned from organizations that have thrived for over fifty years, and their success is deeply rooted in a commitment to human values and resources.

In conclusion, I extend my heartfelt appreciation to the Co-Serve leadership team for orchestrating this transformative experience. I encourage the continuation and expansion of such programs around the world, as they play a crucial role in fostering positive change and growth. Servant leadership is more essential than ever in our world, offering a guiding light and a model for leading with compassion, purpose, and unwavering dedication to the well-being of others.

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Friends

“My Heartwarming Oregon Host Experience”

Through the servant leadership program, I had the opportunity to stay with a very lovely host family in Oregon on July 20, 2014. Upon our arrival at the sisters church, we were greeted with a delightful surprise. Dinner was already prepared, and each table had name cards displaying the host family’s names and the students assigned to them. It was here that Kariam and I were introduced to our new host family in Oregon, the wonderful Mr. Mark Tyler and Ms. Karen Tyler.

We accompanied the Tylers to their home, where their hospitality instantly made us feel at ease. They had a charming dog named Princess Juniper Rosie. Although I was initially afraid of Rosie, the Tylers’ gentle reassurance helped me overcome my fear. They gave us a thorough tour of their house, making sure we knew we could make ourselves at home. Later, we enjoyed a cozy cup of tea together, sharing stories about our lives. They provided us with a separate room, complete with all the necessary amenities, ensuring our comfort.

The next morning, we had more time to converse over a delicious breakfast before they drove us to the church. That evening, they served us a mouth-watering chicken dinner, which reminded us of our own Afghan cuisine. This warm hospitality and delicious meals continued throughout our stay. One memorable morning, we even had the chance to enjoy breakfast outside, a novel and delightful experience for us.

The Tylers treated us with the utmost kindness and respect, making us feel like cherished members of their family. Our conversations covered a wide range of topics, and we found them deeply engaging. Mr. Mark Tyler, a man of great integrity, had an impressive collection of books. He often read by candlelight, adding to his intellectual charm. He also showed us his stunning classic car, a testament to his passion for vintage automobiles.

Ms. Karen Tyler was incredibly kind and thoughtful. She cooked for us, washed my clothes, and drove us to the church. We had many enlightening discussions about our respective cultures, and she showed a genuine interest in learning more. She actively listened and made us feel valued and respected.

One particularly enjoyable day, the Tylers drove us to the Dee Wright Observatory. The visit was a highlight of our trip, offering breathtaking views and fascinating insights into the area’s natural beauty. It was an experience we will never forget.

Our co-serve program concluded in Oregon on the morning of July 26th. Ms. Karen drove us to the church and, in a heartfelt moment, hugged me like a mother. She told me how much she enjoyed our time together, and I expressed my sincere appreciation for her delicious food and generous hospitality, making me feel as though I was in my own home.

As I reflect on my time with the Tylers in Oregon, I am filled with gratitude and emotion. Their warmth, kindness, and genuine care made me feel like part of their family. The memories we created, the conversations we shared, and the bonds we formed will always hold a special place in my heart. I now have a new family in Oregon, one that I cherish as much as my own, and I am confident that this beautiful relationship will continue to grow and flourish in the years to come.

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Friends

“From ILD to Co-Serve”

When I embarked on my journey with ILD in 2010, it wasn’t just about studying; it was a transformative experience filled with opportunities to meet inspiring servant leaders. These individuals not only taught us about leadership but also motivated us to practice and revel in it. Every encounter with these leaders was like a breath of fresh air, invigorating my passion for leadership.

A few years into the ILD class, I found myself participating in student presentations and observing what they had learned in ILD. That day, several students from 2018 and a few from 2010, including the instructors, were selected for the Co-Serve program in Kazakhstan. Intrigued, I turned to my friend Jamshid Sultanzada for more details. Jamshid painted a vivid picture of Co-Serve, a program established by the remarkable Mr. Marshall Christensen. His mission? To instill the principles of servant leadership in young minds. Marshall’s life story is a testament to dedication, having spent his entire life educating and serving others. His approach was practical and deeply impactful, resonating with students at a profound level.

Inspired by Jamshid’s account, I eagerly submitted my request to join the program in 2019 through ILD Herat. However, fate had other plans. Instead of Co-Serve, I embarked on a Master’s Degree journey at KAFU. Upon arrival, I heard more about Mr. Marshall’s initiative, which left an indelible mark on me. Determined to pursue this path, I intended to follow up with ILD, but then the pandemic struck, and Afghanistan faced unprecedented challenges. Amidst the turmoil, I found myself fleeing to the United States.

In 2023, my persistence paid off. I reached out to ILD in Colorado, and they graciously enrolled me in the Co-Serve program. July 12, 2024, marked a golden milestone in my journey. On this day, I finally participated in Co-Serve, meeting the inspiring Mr. Marshall and his wonderful family. Alongside three fellow Afghans and a diverse group of Co-Serve students, I embarked on an unforgettable adventure.

The first day of the program was nothing short of magical. Mr. Marshall’s speeches were captivating, filled with wisdom about working together, believing in each other, and blessing one another. His words resonated deeply, leaving a lasting impression on all of us. Marshall and Daniel Ballast, the dynamic duo behind Co-Serve, have been nurturing this program for years. Daniel shared the fascinating origin story: in 2004, Marshall created a servant leadership course for students at KAFU. The impact was immediate and profound, sparking discussions about global leadership challenges and embracing new values.

Their collaboration expanded Co-Serve to other countries, and here we were, in July 2024, a diverse group of 22 students in Portland. We have had the privilege of visiting organizations with over 50 years of servant leadership experience. It was a golden opportunity to learn firsthand how these organizations embody servant leadership in their companies, communities, and the people they serve.

Reflecting on this journey, I am immensely grateful for the opportunity. The Co-Serve program has taught me that servant leadership is fundamentally about people, their needs, and fostering deep connections. It’s about valuing each other, lifting each other up, and creating a supportive community. This experience has been nothing short of transformative, and I am excited to carry these lessons forward in my life.

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Reflecting on My ILD Journey and Gratitude for Mr. Petrus

From the moment I first encountered Mr. Petrus, I knew he was a leader of remarkable vision and empathy. His dedication to nurturing and guiding aspiring leaders has left an indelible mark on everyone fortunate enough to learn from him. As I reflect on my journey with ILD, I am filled with immense gratitude for the pivotal role he has played in my personal and professional growth.

As a lifelong learner, my journey with ILD began in 2010 when I decided to pursue studies in leadership. Recommended by a few friends who believed in my potential, I was introduced to ILD’s core principles and invited for an interview. During the interview, I was asked two questions that have stayed with me ever since: “Who is the person that has influenced you?” and “Who is the person you have influenced?”

At the time, my proficiency in English was limited, and I struggled to articulate my responses. The following day, I received an email in February 2010 informing me that I had not been considered for the ILD 2010 program. This news deeply saddened me, especially as I had encouraged my friends to join ILD alongside me.

Determined to turn this setback into an opportunity, I composed a heartfelt email to ILD Director Mr. Petrus. I carefully chose my words, expressing my sincere desire to be part of the ILD program. To my surprise and delight, I was invited for another meeting with Mr. Petrus. During our conversation, he looked me in the eye and said, “You have impressed me with your words.” He handed me the application and invited me to the ILD inauguration.

Mr. Petrus became a pivotal figure in my journey, bridging the gap between my aspirations and achievements. He initially taught us Vision and Integrity classes, instilling in us key principles such as empathy, humility, stewardship, empowerment, and commitment to the growth of others.

Empathy, as I learned, is the cornerstone of servant leadership. It involves understanding and sharing the feelings of others, fostering a supportive environment where team members feel valued and heard. Humility, another essential trait, reminds us that leadership is not about exerting power but about serving others. Stewardship emphasizes our responsibility to manage resources wisely and act in the best interests of the team and organization. Empowerment involves giving team members the authority and confidence to make decisions, encouraging innovation and ownership. Commitment to the growth of others underscores the importance of investing in the personal and professional development of team members, ensuring they reach their full potential.

The year 2010 stands out as one of the best years of my life. During this time, I learned so much from all the instructors and classmates, forming many valuable friendships along the way. These relationships and lessons have continued to influence and inspire me in countless ways.

As I promised Mr. Petrus that I would strive to excel and be an exemplary ILD participant, I dedicated myself to improving my English skills and contributing passionately to every class. With unwavering dedication, I embraced the principles of servant leadership, focusing on serving my team and fostering a collaborative, growth-oriented environment.

In 2019, when ILD signed another partnership with KAFU, I was one of the first ILD graduates to apply and obtain my Master’s Degree. This achievement was a testament to the transformative power of servant leadership and the unwavering support of Mr. Petrus in 2010.

As I pen these words today, on the eve of July 12, 2024, I am about to participate in the Co-Serve program, which is part of ILD’s Servant Leadership initiative. This opportunity is a testament to Mr. Petrus, who opened the door to countless possibilities for me. Through the Co-Serve program, I will continue to practice and promote the principles of servant leadership, striving to inspire and empower others as Mr. Petrus has done for me.

From the bottom of my heart, I want to express my deepest gratitude to Mr. Petrus. He has taught me invaluable leadership skills and has embodied the qualities of a great leader: passion, trustworthiness, and kindness. His guidance has not only shaped my career but also enriched my life in profound ways.

Thank you, Mr. Petrus, for your unwavering support and for believing in me.