Category: Thoughts

Imagine being a child, desperate for a new pair of shoes, but the only shoes you have are cheap plastic ones. Your father promises to buy you what you want, but when the time comes, he can’t deliver.

Today, I’ll share how my father’s sacrifices and his powerful belief in the value of education shaped my journey, helped me overcome challenges, and inspired me to create a better future for my children.

The Struggle with Poverty and Material Desires

When I was in 4th grade, I looked around at all my classmates and saw them wearing shiny, fancy shoes. They walked into class with such confidence, their shoes gleaming and new, while I sat there in my plastic shoes—worn, cracked, and barely holding together. I wanted those fancy shoes more than anything. I wanted to feel like I belonged, like I wasn’t different. I asked my father, begged him for those shoes, hoping he would understand how badly I wanted them. I remember the look in his eyes when he promised, “When your shoes wear out, I’ll get you the fancy shoes you want.” I held on to that promise like a lifeline. Every day, I looked at my shoes, hoping they would fall apart so I could finally wear something that would make me feel normal.

But when the day came, when my plastic shoes finally gave up on me, I went to my father, my heart racing with anticipation. I thought, This is it. He’s going to keep his promise. But when he came home that evening, instead of the fancy shoes I had dreamed of, he brought me plastic shoes. I felt the ground fall away beneath me. The tears started to burn in my eyes, but I couldn’t let them show. I felt my heart break in a way I couldn’t explain. It wasn’t just that the shoes weren’t what I wanted, it was that the one thing I had asked for, the one thing that felt like it would make me worthy of my classmates’ world, was something my father couldn’t give me.

I was so embarrassed. I couldn’t understand why he couldn’t just get me those shoes. It wasn’t like it was asking for the moon. Why couldn’t I have something as simple as fancy shoes? I felt like I didn’t matter, like I wasn’t important enough to deserve the same things everyone else had. I didn’t just feel different, I felt invisible. And as I held those new plastic shoes in my hands, I felt smaller than I ever had before. The other kids would see my shoes and know—I was the one left out. I wasn’t part of their world. I wasn’t good enough.

Main Point 2: A Father’s Sacrifice and Wisdom
The next day, I didn’t go to school. I stayed home, too embarrassed to face my classmates, too ashamed to walk through the door with my plastic shoes. I thought if I just stayed hidden, no one would notice how different I was. When my father came home that evening, I overheard my mother telling him that I hadn’t gone to school. I froze, feeling a wave of dread wash over me. I was terrified. I thought he would be furious. I imagined him coming into the room, his eyes burning with anger, ready to punish me for my defiance. Why didn’t you go to school? I braced myself for the beating I thought was coming.

But when he came to me, he didn’t raise his hand. He didn’t shout. Instead, he sat down beside me, his face soft and full of concern. His voice was gentle, but firm. “I know you’re upset,” he said. “I can see it in your eyes. But life is tough, Ramin. I am doing the best I can for you, and I wish I could give you everything you want. But what I can give you, more than anything, is an education. You keep studying, you work hard, and one day, you won’t just be able to buy shoes—you’ll be able to buy a better life. You’ll be able to create the future you dream of.”

In that moment, something changed inside me. I wasn’t just hearing words. I was feeling them, deep in my heart. I realized then that the shoes weren’t what I needed to feel whole. It wasn’t the fancy shoes, the thing I thought would define me, that would make me happy. What I needed, what I truly needed, was the knowledge my father was trying to give me—the understanding that education was the key to unlocking everything I dreamed of. My father, despite all the things he couldn’t provide, was offering me something far more valuable than material possessions: he was giving me the power to change my life. He was giving me the chance to rise above the poverty that had defined our world.

His words washed over me like a wave of understanding. He couldn’t give me fancy shoes, but he was giving me something far greater—the opportunity to create my own future, to carve out a life filled with possibilities, not limitations. I didn’t need to be defined by the things I didn’t have. I had the chance to create a life where I could have everything I ever wanted, not just for myself, but for my children, for the future.

Main Point 3: The Role of Education in Changing My Future

My father’s words became the foundation upon which I built my future. I realized that if I wanted to break free from the cycle of poverty, the key was education. It wasn’t just about good grades, it was about honoring my father’s sacrifices, the dreams he had for me that he could never fulfill himself. I threw myself into my studies, not only to succeed but to show him that his belief in me wasn’t misplaced. Education became my lifeline, my way out, the bridge to a life I once thought was unreachable.

As the years went by, I began to understand just how profound my father’s gift was. He couldn’t give me wealth or material possessions, but he gave me the most powerful tool of all—knowledge. That was the tool that would change everything. Today, as I study Communication Studies at Diablo Valley College (DVC) in California, I realize that I am living a dream my father could never have imagined for himself. His hope for me was that I would rise above the limitations of our circumstances, and in pursuing my education, I am finally fulfilling that dream.

Education opened doors I never thought was possible. It gave me the opportunity to break free from a life of hardship and create a future I once thought was out of touch. And in doing so, I am carrying my father’s legacy forward—one of sacrifice, hope, and the belief that a better life can be built through the power of learning.

Passing on the Legacy to My Children

In August 2024, when I enrolled my son in school, my wife bought him a pair of fancy shoes, the same kind I had always dreamed of as a child. As I watched him put them on, I was overwhelmed with emotion. It wasn’t just about the shoes themselves, but what they represented: a better life, the life my father had always wanted for me, and the life I now have the privilege of providing for my children. In that moment, I realized that I had come full circle. The dream my father had for me—to give me a future beyond the limitations of our circumstances—was now being realized through my own children.

Tears filled my eyes not out of sadness, but out of profound gratitude. I was witnessing a tangible reflection of all the sacrifices, all the struggles, and all the hopes that had shaped my own life. It was a reminder that the very things I once lacked, material comforts, opportunities—were now within my reach, and I was able to offer them to my own children. But more importantly, I was able to offer them the one thing that truly mattered: education.

As I shared this experience with my wife and children, I told them, “You are incredibly fortunate to live in a place where education is within your reach and where your parents can provide for you. Never take that for granted. Education is the key to everything. It’s the foundation upon which you will build your future.”

In that moment, I felt a deep sense of purpose. I want my children to understand that their future will not be shaped by material things, but by the knowledge they gain, the hard work they put in, and the choices they make. Just as my father’s words guided me, I am now passing that same belief in the power of education on to them. My father gave me the opportunity to change my life, and now, I have the honor of doing the same for my children. This cycle of hope, sacrifice, and opportunity is what keeps me going, and it’s what I want my children to carry forward.

Closing Thought:
Education is the foundation for everything we want in life. It is the most powerful tool we can use to build a better future—not just for ourselves, but for our families and our communities. My father’s sacrifice gave me the gift of education, and I will ensure my children understand its value. Thank you.

Dear Respected and Beloved Father,

On this melodious and spiritual day, where the light of your birth shines into our hearts, with eagerness and trembling emotions, I pen down these lines for you. Though I am far from you, the sense of your presence in my life is palpable. I kiss your blessed hands from afar, and this connection with you is a spiritual presence that even geographical distance cannot alter.

Though physically distant, my mind, my heart, and my feelings are always beside you. My thoughts are filled with beautiful memories and love that I have received from you. Each moment of life, relying on the experiences and emotions I have learned from you, turns into a new stage of growth and learning.

With all the respect and affection I have for you, I acknowledge your amazing achievements and qualities. You are not only a dear father and a prominent mentor, but in your continuous love and effort, endless kindness, endurance of hardships, and noble leadership, you are an example of patience, kindness, and commitment to ethical principles.

Dear father, I cannot thank you enough for all your efforts, struggles, and fulfilling your role in creating a safe and supportive environment for the family. Your courage in facing challenges is inspiring to me. Your patience and perseverance have created a powerful motivation within me.

When I became a father myself, I understood and realized that a father means a story of a life full of pain and suffering that only a father acts within his great heart. I understood that a father is someone who, in the shadows of darkness, always puts a smile on his lips despite pain and suffering. He is a silent hero, someone who courageously and resolutely shoulders the responsibilities and heavy burdens of life. He is always seeking innovative solutions and ways to support his family in solitude. Every day, all the blossoms of hope dance in the midst of life’s storms.

Father, your life, with all its emotional and heroic masterpieces, is truly poetic. You play melodies of hope and effort in the heart of life. As time passes, every sorrow and pain that comes from my father’s heart falls like a raindrop from scattered clouds on the horizon of our souls. This tale of a father is a song that, when sung, our emotions come to life like waves in the sea, to the tune of the fragrance of hope.

You are that father who has always fought alongside the family in the hardships and moments of life, enduring pain and suffering, yet always facing it with a smile. With qualities such as readiness, integrity, and courage, you have endured all the hardships of life that have come your way. I have learned from you that the path of life is sometimes not easy, but with faith and determination, we can progress and improve. I am grateful for your courage in leading in challenging paths, for your commitment to values and ethics, and above all, for your endless love and support. Everything I have and everything I am is because of you.

On this day filled with joy and praise, I wish you continued success, happiness, and health on your journey. May your warm and loving presence always be with our family, and may the shadow of your love always envelop our home.

With endless respect and love,

Happy Birthday. Khanzada

Today, on March 8th, a festival of love and respect for women unfolds—a day where I marvel at the feminine virtues and values with a glance full of wonder and delight. In this vast and dynamic world, every corner of beauty that catches my eye leaves me in awe.

When I gaze at the sea, I uncover the secrets of its hidden beauties. In the sea, anything named “ocean” or “shell” initiates a beautiful and feminine story. In the garden, with scattered flowers like “daffodils,” “jasmine,” “violet,” and “blossom,” spring displays its freshness. Each of these flowers takes on a beautiful and feminine name, adding a sweet melody to any moment in life.

Even on the snow-covered peaks, looking at the mountains reveals precious stones like gold, silver, turquoise, and diamonds, all named after women. These beautiful and feminine names bear witness to hidden beauties in every aspect of life.

In a perspective where the sky, like a beautiful book, narrates endless tales of beauty and kindness, I glance at these celestial elevations. Each of these points in the sky has taken a beautiful and glorious feminine name. “Saturn,” with its beautiful and romantic rings, enchants life with tranquility and adornment. “Venus,” with its radiant beauty, plays a crucial role in capturing our attention and proudly identifies itself as a beautiful flower. “Uranus,” with a sky full of secrets and energy, like a celestial blue whale, leads us to a new world of beautiful and delightful stories. “Moon,” like an endless hero in creation, with its beautiful and gentle light, takes on a soothing and feminine name.

As I look at books and absorb the essence of people’s expressions, names like “praise,” “devotion,” and “adoration” settle in my heart like deep and amazing treasures. These names each bring a special and captivating story of life to me. The definition of a woman, like a mirror reflecting beauty, with these names, reveals a world full of love, effort, and ideals.

In the most magical seasons of life, each name alone is a work of art depicting the beauty and feminine power. “Praise,” with its meaning of admiration and commendation, orders every beautiful song of love and emotions in my mind. “Devotion,” like a calm and delightful melody, conveys every singer’s voice of their life to me. “Adoration,” with its warm and pleasant weight, presents any view of beauty and attention to me.

In this magical world of names, each one as a unique masterpiece of life brings a story full of tales and emotions. Each name, like a beautiful flower scattered in the garden of life, makes my heart lively and hopeful.

Looking at poetry, I am amazed at how the world’s most famous poets harmonize love and beauty with the name “woman.” Every verse that comes out of their mouths sets a sweet melody of love and the epic of feminine life dancing in my heart, filling it with gentle and delightful notes.

When I look at music, I see that artists around the world create romantic love songs as sharp as a woman’s dagger. Their voices, like the soft and pleasant melody of a gentle note, dance in the night sky and immerse my thoughts in the magic of love. With every note, they cast a romantic scent of themselves into the world and draw my heart into the whispers of gentle and soothing love.

If I look at the meaning of life, a world without the presence of women is unbearable. A woman is the essence of existence, the hidden beauty behind the curtain of humanity. A woman’s presence in the world, as a kindness in every aspect, creates a magic that, whenever reminded, leads us to the wonder of love and beauty.

A woman is the most wonderful aspect of the world. Everything in this world is named after a woman. A woman is not only hope and life, but also pure love, growing day by day. She plays a key role in the face of life and, every moment of her existence, brings forth a new romantic story to the world.

Just the fragrance of a woman’s sweet scent passing through the air turns all of life into poetry. The definition of a woman, like a mirror of beauty, with these names, shows me a world full of love, effort, and ideals.

May the day come when women in the heart of Afghanistan, like free birds, proudly soar toward the sky of freedom. In this vast spectrum of life, may they choose the right to be present in the professional world as they wish and engage in it wholeheartedly.

In their schools, may the light of education spread as a bright pear blossom, so they can benefit from knowledge and life’s horizons. The right to education in any field they desire should always be accessible to them, allowing them to enjoy the beauties and melodies of the diverse world of knowledge.

Moreover, in the job market, may women, with their creativity and capabilities, play their role as traders, entrepreneurs, and active contributors to their society’s economy. The right to participate in any fountain of economic and business dynamism is not only a necessity for Afghanistan’s vibrancy but also a tangible requirement for the rise of their nation on the international stage.

This grand wish not only reflects the struggles of women in Afghanistan for their fundamental rights but also highlights the incredible potential and power shining within every woman. This literary and emotional perspective is an endless support to the vulnerable and courageous assistants of these life stories, whose melodies of ideals, hope, and self-discovery resonate in the heart of Afghanistan’s beautiful blossoms.

In the heart of every individual living in this world full of secrets and untold stories, there are infinite wishes, like leaves on trees. These wishful leaves, all ignited with the flames of longing and eagerness, burn intensely in the hearts of all. Each leaf is a symbol of a wish, a desire, and an unspoken longing in the essence of humanity.

These wishes, like delicate flowers blooming in the gardens of life, always flow through the heart of each person in this world like particles in a profound sea of emotions, whispering their desired melody in the solitude of their hearts every moment. Life sometimes presents us with wishes that will never come true, plunging the human heart into endless regret that will accompany them until the final moments of their existence.

Some individuals perceive these regrets as a unique guide for growth and advancement, directing them towards finding the best version of themselves. In this adventurous journey called life, every step is a sorrowful tale, every moment a bitter lesson, and every wish a drop of tears in the vast sea of emotions. Undoubtedly, these regrets and wishes, like a great storm, surround our lives, pulling us into the depths of our own sea with a sudden caress.

At times, one must lower the ceiling of their wishes a little to look at life more comfortably and respectfully pass by all the wishes that have drowned in our hearts. In the corners of our minds, wishes and regrets lie dormant, alive in the solitude of our hearts. With a heart full of enthusiasm and hope, we can make the best use of what we have in this world with its ever-revolving sun.

This journey, a combination of tears falling like raindrops from everyone’s eyes, laughter casting warmth and light into our hearts like the sun, and the heartwarming melodies of the song of life, will be filled with stories of the spectrum of human experiences. This journey, like a diverse collection of melodies, showcases the complete spectrum of life from bitter moments to sweet ones.

The heartwarming melodies of the song of life in this journey, with each change in life’s composition, offer new emotions and experiences to humans. tears melodies, with moments of happiness and heartwarming, narrate a story of diversity and variety in the history of life. With each step added to this journey, every moment will initiate a new chapter in the story of life.

This journey reveals adventures of memories and unspoken desires, allowing individuals to become familiar with the emotions and motivations that have always been hidden in their hearts. In the complexity and beauty of this journey, every note of the song of life is a reminder of paths guiding individuals toward dreams and goals.

This journey, like an endless book of life’s beauties, will write a captivating and unforgettable story on each of its pages. With faith in oneself and intelligent choices, let us, with love and courtesy, write pages filled with the deepest emotions and profound feelings of our lives, bringing light and freshness to the world around us. This journey will remind us that regrets and wishes always guide us towards dreams and progress. Let us, with love and emotion, with hearts full of hope, focus on discovering the beauties of the world and life. This journey, more than anything, will be a joyful and inspiring melody of life that joins the ears of anyone seeking meaning and beauty in every moment, dancing with tears of joy in their hearts.

From the depths of my heart’s valley, soaked with emotions that always linger in the shadows of silence, we unfold our own land today, in the year 2024, to pay homage to the day of men, delving away from the ignorance of history into the corner of love.

In the heart of the flowers of this garden of life, fathers are the strong foundations that entrust our lives to tranquility and brightness. Like the wind of intimacy, they sweep away darkness from their path and have eyes full of love and perpetual efforts to soar and dance in the heights.

Father’s Day is when hearts soar in the name of love, and the sky loses the taste of joyous melodies in this kingdom. Today, I wander in these romantic alleys scattered with pure flowers, seeking beautiful thoughts and words to blossom within them.

The history of Father’s Day is a beautiful tale of love and respect. This day, as a turning point in the story of love, paints serenity in our lives from its inception. Initially, this sapling was planted by religious men in the 1910s in America, like the scent of rain, starting to bloom. Their aim was to create a day of appreciation and respect for fathers, and since then, this fragrance has blossomed and spread worldwide.

Now, Father’s Day is celebrated in every corner of the globe as a symbol of love and respect for fathers. This day gives us the opportunity to express respect and love to the hidden creators of our lives through gifts and soothing words.

Father, the angel ruling over hearts, fills hearts with excitement and love through small and subtle actions. Behind the walls of the heart, where a nurse’s sky is concealed, he showcases the guiding light of life for his children with the lantern of love and stability.

Fathers, the compassionate and mentors of life, standing with life management, make decisions that guide families to a world of brightness. This continuous effort to create a better world, in fields such as economics, faith, and commitment, turns into a beautiful melody that constantly plays in our lives.

Therefore, today I breathe in with a beautiful pear of words of love. On this day, I thank my dear fathers for every moment, expressing gratitude for life and love. I present these romantic moments to the leader of love and the guide of the depths of my life.

With utmost respect and love,

Khanzada

In the journey of life, no one travels alone. Undoubtedly, numerous individuals join us in this journey, walking alongside us, as no one can progress alone or without connections with others. This diverse and challenging journey leads us to harmonize with various individuals. In this path, we not only witness those who walk beside us but also influence others with our decisions and actions. It is essential to appreciate and acknowledge our connections and shared will from the beginning to the last moments of this journey.

The commencement of my life’s journey begins with the blessings of my dear family, where my beloved parents, Al-Haj Abdul Qayum Sakha and Nazifeh Wafa, shaped my life with love and kindness, providing profound guidance. Additionally, my siblings, especially my dear brothers and sister, my Father-in-law Abdul Sami and my lovely aunt, have always been the starting point of support and positive intentions in my heart. This family is a constant and powerful anchor that has enriched my life with stable relationships and boundless love.

I express heartfelt gratitude to the numerous educators who stood as mentors throughout my educational journey, from elementary school to Master level studies. These esteemed mentors not only enhanced my scientific knowledge but also guided me towards progress and development with quality teachings. Moreover, I am grateful to dear friends like Tareq, Jamsheed, Sultan Ahmed Aria, Basit Ahmadi, and others who introduced me to the world of knowledge. Their support and companionship helped me navigate the marvelous path of learning.

The love and joy derived from my dear wife and two children, Niayesh Jan and Mohammad Elyar Jan, make my life more valuable and significant than anything else. In every moment spent with this beloved small family, I feel grateful and content.

When I spend time with my children and wife, I sense that time is our most precious asset, and this close bond strengthens us. Additionally, my wife, through cooking delicious homemade meals, symbolizes love and care, consistently striving to create a festival of flavors and warm home memories for us. This ongoing hospitality and patience in cooking reflect a will that cannot easily be overlooked.

Alongside all these commendable aspects of life, sometimes life, amidst the storms of transformations, encounters challenges and pressures. Hence, it is crucial to fully benefit from the love and support of our spouse and children. My wife, Maryam Jan, is not only my life partner but an exceptional companion who is present in every moment of life. My two beloved children also play a vital role in creating sweet and meaningful moments in life.

Life in America and the challenging world today is not without its challenges and complex prospects. As I strive with passion and hope to achieve my short-term and long-term goals, responsibilities and expectations become challenging. Nevertheless, most importantly, I express appreciation and gratitude to my wife, who patiently and diligently stands by my side, encouraging me to continue the path of goal setting and serving immigrants.

Furthermore, the presence of dear individuals like Dr. Sahib Joya, Hasib Jan Hafizi, and the kind-hearted, especially the family of Jamshid Jan Sultan Zada, in America is highly valuable to me. Their support and presence motivate me to continue my successful journey of goal setting and serving immigrants with dedication and success.

Life can be experienced as a valuable and fascinating journey. Similar to a journey full of mysteries and challenges, life offers abundant opportunities and unique challenges for each individual. Since 2004, when I embarked on this adventurous and spiritual journey, and engaged in various fields of work, this path has transformed into a comprehensive period of learning and personal growth.

This journey, accompanied by moments of laughter and joy, has consistently guided me towards new aspects of life. Over the course of these 19 years, I have worked in diverse environments, including domestic and international organizations, gaining extensive experience.

Connecting with people from different backgrounds in Afghanistan and other countries, especially during the past two years in the United States, has been one of the captivating aspects of my life journey. These interactions, occurring in various work environments and life experiences, have turned into profound lessons in leadership, continuous learning, and making a positive impact.

Amidst these entertainments and challenges, my goal in sharing these experiential stories is to provide a scientific and experiential approach for others. I hope that these insights will help others optimally utilize their past experiences, take steps towards sustainable improvements in their personal and professional lives, and complain less while contributing more positively to society.

One interesting observation during this experiential journey has been the increase in complaints and criticisms from individuals when facing economic and social pressures and challenges. These complaints not only serve as tools to express problems and weaknesses but also seem to be employed as a strategy to escape from challenges.

The experience in Afghanistan has shown that people are facing economic challenges, poverty, and unemployment, leading to an increase in complaints and dissatisfaction among the population. This has grown into an unhealthy phenomenon among the entire population. In these circumstances, the lack of gratitude for opportunities and presented situations becomes one of the fundamental challenges.

Now the question arises: Are these negative statements and complaints something we should avoid? Or can we use these negative experiences as an opportunity for learning and improvement?

From a scientific perspective, complaints can indicate weaknesses and social needs. However, the question is how gratitude for opportunities can be introduced as a constructive solution. Gratitude not only creates a sense of satisfaction and joy but also guides individuals towards positive aspects of life.

From my experiences, I have learned that individuals who can benefit from opportunities in the face of challenges and, instead of complaining, move towards solutions with gratitude, have had much more successful experiences.

Therefore, if we want to use personal experiences in this regard, I believe it is essential to encourage individuals to approach challenges with a constructive attitude and, instead of increasing complaints, move towards encouraging gratitude and benefiting from opportunities. This path can help individuals not only experience improvement in their own lives but also contribute to the improvement of their communities.

In conclusion, this path of 19 years of experience demonstrates the importance of opportunities and the central role of gratitude in advancing individual and social life. From the transformations witnessed during this period, it can be learned that individuals tend to complain and criticize easily in the face of challenges and problems. However, when these criticisms turn towards positive and constructive management, they will have significantly positive effects.

Experience shows that the path individuals take with a pursuit of gratitude and utilizing opportunities has not only impacted their personal lives but has also had positive effects on communities. Gratitude, with its constructive perspective on life and the provided opportunities, guides individuals towards sustainable solutions and improvements.

For this reason, I joined the call from here for every individual to change their focus from complaints to gratitude and benefit from life’s opportunities. This choice will not only help improve one’s personality and mindset but will also serve as a powerful guide for the progress of societies. Therefore, with a sense of responsibility and hope for the future, I highly recommend this constructive and meaningful path of my experiences to everyone.