Category: Thoughts

In the journey of life, no one travels alone. Undoubtedly, numerous individuals join us in this journey, walking alongside us, as no one can progress alone or without connections with others. This diverse and challenging journey leads us to harmonize with various individuals. In this path, we not only witness those who walk beside us but also influence others with our decisions and actions. It is essential to appreciate and acknowledge our connections and shared will from the beginning to the last moments of this journey.

The commencement of my life’s journey begins with the blessings of my dear family, where my beloved parents, Al-Haj Abdul Qayum Sakha and Nazifeh Wafa, shaped my life with love and kindness, providing profound guidance. Additionally, my siblings, especially my dear brothers and sister, my Father-in-law Abdul Sami and my lovely aunt, have always been the starting point of support and positive intentions in my heart. This family is a constant and powerful anchor that has enriched my life with stable relationships and boundless love.

I express heartfelt gratitude to the numerous educators who stood as mentors throughout my educational journey, from elementary school to Master level studies. These esteemed mentors not only enhanced my scientific knowledge but also guided me towards progress and development with quality teachings. Moreover, I am grateful to dear friends like Tareq, Jamsheed, Sultan Ahmed Aria, Basit Ahmadi, and others who introduced me to the world of knowledge. Their support and companionship helped me navigate the marvelous path of learning.

The love and joy derived from my dear wife and two children, Niayesh Jan and Mohammad Elyar Jan, make my life more valuable and significant than anything else. In every moment spent with this beloved small family, I feel grateful and content.

When I spend time with my children and wife, I sense that time is our most precious asset, and this close bond strengthens us. Additionally, my wife, through cooking delicious homemade meals, symbolizes love and care, consistently striving to create a festival of flavors and warm home memories for us. This ongoing hospitality and patience in cooking reflect a will that cannot easily be overlooked.

Alongside all these commendable aspects of life, sometimes life, amidst the storms of transformations, encounters challenges and pressures. Hence, it is crucial to fully benefit from the love and support of our spouse and children. My wife, Maryam Jan, is not only my life partner but an exceptional companion who is present in every moment of life. My two beloved children also play a vital role in creating sweet and meaningful moments in life.

Life in America and the challenging world today is not without its challenges and complex prospects. As I strive with passion and hope to achieve my short-term and long-term goals, responsibilities and expectations become challenging. Nevertheless, most importantly, I express appreciation and gratitude to my wife, who patiently and diligently stands by my side, encouraging me to continue the path of goal setting and serving immigrants.

Furthermore, the presence of dear individuals like Dr. Sahib Joya, Hasib Jan Hafizi, and the kind-hearted, especially the family of Jamshid Jan Sultan Zada, in America is highly valuable to me. Their support and presence motivate me to continue my successful journey of goal setting and serving immigrants with dedication and success.

Life can be experienced as a valuable and fascinating journey. Similar to a journey full of mysteries and challenges, life offers abundant opportunities and unique challenges for each individual. Since 2004, when I embarked on this adventurous and spiritual journey, and engaged in various fields of work, this path has transformed into a comprehensive period of learning and personal growth.

This journey, accompanied by moments of laughter and joy, has consistently guided me towards new aspects of life. Over the course of these 19 years, I have worked in diverse environments, including domestic and international organizations, gaining extensive experience.

Connecting with people from different backgrounds in Afghanistan and other countries, especially during the past two years in the United States, has been one of the captivating aspects of my life journey. These interactions, occurring in various work environments and life experiences, have turned into profound lessons in leadership, continuous learning, and making a positive impact.

Amidst these entertainments and challenges, my goal in sharing these experiential stories is to provide a scientific and experiential approach for others. I hope that these insights will help others optimally utilize their past experiences, take steps towards sustainable improvements in their personal and professional lives, and complain less while contributing more positively to society.

One interesting observation during this experiential journey has been the increase in complaints and criticisms from individuals when facing economic and social pressures and challenges. These complaints not only serve as tools to express problems and weaknesses but also seem to be employed as a strategy to escape from challenges.

The experience in Afghanistan has shown that people are facing economic challenges, poverty, and unemployment, leading to an increase in complaints and dissatisfaction among the population. This has grown into an unhealthy phenomenon among the entire population. In these circumstances, the lack of gratitude for opportunities and presented situations becomes one of the fundamental challenges.

Now the question arises: Are these negative statements and complaints something we should avoid? Or can we use these negative experiences as an opportunity for learning and improvement?

From a scientific perspective, complaints can indicate weaknesses and social needs. However, the question is how gratitude for opportunities can be introduced as a constructive solution. Gratitude not only creates a sense of satisfaction and joy but also guides individuals towards positive aspects of life.

From my experiences, I have learned that individuals who can benefit from opportunities in the face of challenges and, instead of complaining, move towards solutions with gratitude, have had much more successful experiences.

Therefore, if we want to use personal experiences in this regard, I believe it is essential to encourage individuals to approach challenges with a constructive attitude and, instead of increasing complaints, move towards encouraging gratitude and benefiting from opportunities. This path can help individuals not only experience improvement in their own lives but also contribute to the improvement of their communities.

In conclusion, this path of 19 years of experience demonstrates the importance of opportunities and the central role of gratitude in advancing individual and social life. From the transformations witnessed during this period, it can be learned that individuals tend to complain and criticize easily in the face of challenges and problems. However, when these criticisms turn towards positive and constructive management, they will have significantly positive effects.

Experience shows that the path individuals take with a pursuit of gratitude and utilizing opportunities has not only impacted their personal lives but has also had positive effects on communities. Gratitude, with its constructive perspective on life and the provided opportunities, guides individuals towards sustainable solutions and improvements.

For this reason, I joined the call from here for every individual to change their focus from complaints to gratitude and benefit from life’s opportunities. This choice will not only help improve one’s personality and mindset but will also serve as a powerful guide for the progress of societies. Therefore, with a sense of responsibility and hope for the future, I highly recommend this constructive and meaningful path of my experiences to everyone.

My career with the IRC (International Rescue Committee) has been a truly profound and transformative journey. As an immigrant who overcame the daunting challenges of starting fresh in the United States, having escaped the devastation caused by the Taliban in Afghanistan, I have gained a deep understanding of the resilience and strength that individuals in similar circumstances possess. This experience has been a source of inspiration and motivation, reminding me that no challenge is too great to conquer and that with determination and support, we can all build a brighter future.

My personal experiences have driven me to extend a helping hand to others confronted with comparable struggles. My journey with the IRC commenced on July 5, 2022, when I joined as a Caseworker Assistant. Right from the outset, I was profoundly inspired by the impactful work of IRC staff in their mission to resettle refugees in the United States. During my onboarding, I diligently familiarized myself with all of IRC’s policies and procedures. The IRC’s mission resonated deeply within me, as it is dedicated to bringing about tangible and lasting change in people’s lives. This mission fuels my desire to contribute my skills and passion to this noble cause.

While my career had primarily been centered in Afghanistan, my humanitarian journey aligns perfectly with the IRC’s mission, reflecting a deep commitment to helping people in crisis. Each day, I draw strength from the challenges I encounter in my role, and this strength was evident when I was promoted to the position of Caseworker on September 1, 2022. Over the course of a year, I devoted myself to my work with love and passion. Despite the numerous challenges that come with being a caseworker, I found immense satisfaction in helping 31 families find their new homes.

Following a year of dedication and a job well done, I was presented with a new opportunity to serve as a Resettlement Coordinator. After a successful interview, I gladly accepted the offer and embarked on my new role on October 16, 2023. This new position is incredibly challenging, and I wholeheartedly embrace these challenges with enthusiasm. Each day, I am enriched and educated in new ways, and I continue to learn and grow.

What truly makes my work with the IRC extraordinary is the organization’s core belief that we hold the dreams of other people in our hands. This belief gives my life a profound sense of purpose, and it’s the reason I wake up every single morning with a renewed determination to make a positive impact. The results of our collective efforts, driven by the IRC’s unwavering mission, are nothing short of fantastic.

One of the most remarkable aspects of my journey with the IRC is the profound sense of connection I have cultivated with my colleagues. The individuals working in this organization are not merely professionals; they are people from diverse cultures of highly educated, skilled, and dedicated individuals. Their unwavering support and collaborative spirit have been instrumental in my growth and the success of our shared vision to help refugees. Each day, I am surrounded by compassionate and like-minded individuals who work tirelessly to make the world a better place.

This camaraderie and shared dedication are the foundation of the IRC’s impact. Together, we strive to provide refugees with the hope, support, and opportunities they need to rebuild their lives and pursue their dreams. As I continue my journey with the IRC, I am continually inspired by the remarkable individuals I have the privilege to work with. I am excited about the enduring impact we can create together, and I look forward to each day with a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Each day, I wake up with a profound sense of purpose and inner strength. I am strong, not just in body but also in mind. I am not merely alive; I am thriving, experiencing life to its fullest. My physical well-being is at its peak, and I am filled with boundless energy.

My life is a canvas of passion and purpose, where I pour my heart into every endeavor. I take joy in the journey. My talents are a wellspring of creativity, and I cherish my work. I give it my all, continually learning and growing with the help of my dedicated colleagues. I maintain nurturing relationships with those around me and use my knowledge and skills to make a positive impact on the world.

Confidence radiates from me, an unwavering and magnetic force that draws others nearby. My personality exudes happiness, and I infuse every moment with delight. People are naturally drawn to me, finding joy in my presence.

My commitment to excellence is the guiding star in all that I do. Anchored by unwavering integrity, success is not a destination but a way of life. Prosperity is my constant companion, and my future brims with promise.

As I gaze into the future, I see a legacy that will inspire generations yet to come. My children thrive in the world I have helped build, and my influence will linger long after my time. Every step I take is purposeful, an opportunity for greatness.

I am blessed beyond measure, and each day ushers in new victories. This is my truth, embraced with open arms. I find deep self-satisfaction in my daily life, the people around me, and my ability to make a positive impact on others. Life is a breathtaking journey, and I am a joyful traveler, ready to share the energy of optimism and possibility with all those I encounter.

The Herat earthquake that shook my homeland on October 5, 2023, marked a moment of profound awakening and heart-wrenching sorrow. It was a seismic tragedy that left an indelible mark on my soul.

As I watched the devastating videos of the earthquake’s aftermath, my heart sank. The images of thousands of people buried beneath the earth, their lives tragically cut short, and the sight of innocent children, boys with dreams unfulfilled, now resting beneath the unforgiving soil, brought tears that flowed uncontrollably. Their pain was immeasurable, and my helplessness felt infinite.

In the wake of this catastrophe, my homeland was thrown into turmoil. Thousands were left homeless, with their lives shattered, and a sense of despair loomed. The relentless aftershocks served as constant reminders of the unpredictability and fragility of human existence.

Amid this devastation, a somber truth emerged, reminding me of life’s most treasured yet simplest gifts:

1. Family’s Health: The well-being of our loved ones is the most valuable possession we have. Their safety and health are beyond price.
2. A Shelter to Call Home: A secure, stable place to live offers not just physical protection but a sanctuary of comfort and belonging.
3. Financial Stability: Having the means to access basic necessities provides not just sustenance but also dignity and peace of mind.
4. Means of Transportation: A car, for instance, signifies more than mobility; it embodies the freedom to explore and seek opportunities.
5. Employment: A job represents not just a paycheck but also purpose, personal growth, and a chance to make a meaningful impact.

In the wake of such profound loss, the recognition of these fundamental aspects of life is a reminder of our shared vulnerability and humanity. It’s an opportunity to reflect on the fragility of life and offer solemn prayers of gratitude for the blessings we often take for granted.

The Herat earthquake unveiled the depths of human resilience, the significance of unity during adversity, and the enduring strength of the human spirit, born from even the darkest of hours. It was a moment of profound sorrow, yet also a call to cherish the simple yet priceless gifts life bestows upon us.

Friendship, often regarded as one of life’s most enigmatic treasures, defies simple explanation. It eludes the confines of traditional education, yet its comprehension is a cornerstone of wisdom. True friendship transcends mere comfort, urging us to ascend to greater heights. Among its most profound revelations is the ability to evolve individually while maintaining a profound connection. Each friend becomes a unique universe within us, one that might remain dormant until their arrival, birthing new worlds through the alchemy of companionship.

Friendship isn’t just a word or an idea to me; it’s a tapestry of beautiful moments, shared laughter, and enduring support that weaves through the fabric of my existence. The bonds I share with my friends are not just important; they are the very heartbeats of my life. The warmth of their presence and the shared experiences have illuminated my path in countless ways. If you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything at all.

Missing My Friends

I would like to take a moment to express how deeply I miss all my friends, particularly Mohammad Tariq Aziz, who is currently facing an incredibly challenging situation in the aftermath of the fall of Afghanistan. This has led to considerable social and economic turmoil, and he is in need of strong support to find a new home in another country. I also miss Sultan Ahmad Aria, who is currently in the UK, pursuing his PhD. Fortunately, my other close friends, including Jamhid Sultanzada, Dr. Masood Joya, Mohammad Hasib Hafizy, Dawood Sohail, and others, who are too numerous to name, are nearby in the United States. They are my cherished treasures.

A Void of Absence

My beloved family, brothers, and friends, your absence creates a void that cannot be filled by anything else. The memories we’ve created, the challenges we’ve conquered together, and the love we’ve shared continue to ignite my spirit. Each of you holds a special place in my heart.

As I reflect on the times we’ve spent together, I’m reminded of the joy, the tears, and the endless laughter we’ve shared. These are the threads that have woven our friendship into a tapestry of love and understanding. My heart aches for the day when we can reunite, embrace, and continue creating beautiful moments together.

Until that day comes, please know that you are always in my thoughts, and my love for each of you grows stronger with each passing day. Our friendship is a treasure that time cannot diminish, and it’s a source of immeasurable joy in my life. I eagerly await the day when we can gather once more and create new memories, for you are the most beautiful chapters in my life’s story.

In the tapestry of life, my father’s teachings unfolded like a profound journey into the essence of my character, transcending the trappings of power and status. He had an unwavering conviction, I value his wisdom in my heart that genuine strength resides not solely in physical might, but in the depth of one’s restraint and humility. In the corridors of great authority, he reminded me tirelessly that our humanity is marked by imperfections and vulnerabilities. It’s in acknowledging these limitations and embracing the potential for growth that we reveal the true colors of maturity and wisdom.

In those moments when we’re tempted by the illusion of all-knowing invincibility, my father’s wisdom calls us to pause, to introspect. It is in these contemplative moments that we exhibit true maturity, for it takes courage to admit when we lack answers and to seek guidance, to openly acknowledge our imperfections. Through such vulnerability, we not only stay faithful to our own authenticity but uphold the sacred covenant of integrity and trustworthiness.

My father’s lessons resonate as a timeless refrain, especially in a world where values and principles can sometimes appear to erode. We shoulder the profound responsibility of guarding the flame of enduring virtues: honesty, respect, and humility. These values are not just the script of our actions but the very fiber of our character, crafting the enduring legacy we bequeath to the world.

Life, at its core, is an exploration of the tapestry of human relationships. It beckons us to an unwavering dedication to ethical principles and an unwavering commitment to boundless kindness, irrespective of our familiarity with the individuals we meet. What carries significance isn’t the breadth of our knowledge but the depth of our self-awareness, and it’s in the constancy of our ethical foundation that we chart the course of our destiny.

Our virtuous conduct emerges as a beacon, setting us apart from the sea of humanity. It’s the beacon of honesty, endearing us to others and drawing respect and admiration to our doorstep. But, above all, it’s our unwavering kindness that paints indelible strokes on the canvas of human hearts, leaving an everlasting impression, a legacy of love and compassion.

In every facet of life, we have the power to embrace these teachings, to live them, and to infuse our world with the warmth of authenticity, integrity, and unwavering kindness. In doing so, we don’t just enrich our own lives but become architects of a better world, where the timeless values my father imparted continue to shine brightly, touching the lives of all we encounter.

In the tapestry of our lives, woven with threads of kindness, respect, and unwavering integrity, let us remember that love is the most exquisite hue. In a world often clouded by differences, it is love that illuminates the path to ultimate integrity. For it is through love, not hatred, that we truly understand the beauty of our shared humanity.

In the story of my life, I’ve journeyed through difficult times that felt like desolate valleys, where the echoes of my sadness seemed to fade away. In those moments of heartache and disappointment, a powerful truth emerged: sometimes, there’s a quietness, a lack of understanding and empathy. It’s during these times of feeling alone that the weight of our challenges can become almost too much to bear.

Imagine this: standing on the edge of despair, it’s as if the world has turned away from you. The walls echo with your silent cries, but it feels like no one is there to see your pain. Help feels distant, and it seems like the struggles you face are unnoticed by the world.

However, dear reader, it’s precisely in these moments of pain that something extraordinary can happen. Even in the darkness, a spark of realization can ignite within you – a realization that although the world might not see your tears, you have the power to change your story. Instead of succumbing to despair, you decide to challenge the odds.

With determination, you gather your strength and start to reinvent yourself. Step by step, you let go of the feeling of being a victim and embrace empowerment. Instead of dwelling on the challenges around you, you take on the task of rewriting your future.

Through these simple acts of defiance, something magical starts to unfold. The world watches in amazement as you navigate through difficulties, carving a new path with each victory. Your journey transforms you from an observer of life to a strong force for change, catching the world’s attention.

Those who once ignored your struggles are now astonished, seeing your transformation. Your story goes beyond words, creating a tale of bravery, resilience, and triumph. People who read about your journey can’t help but be moved – not out of pity, but out of deep inspiration.

This transformation showcases the incredible strength of the human spirit. Even when faced with challenges, we have the ability to rewrite our destinies, surpassing our circumstances. So, let the tears flow, but let them be tears of wonder. Your story is one of unyielding strength that resonates with anyone who hears it.

In the embrace of books, I find solace and wisdom that fuel my soul. Every night, I immerse myself in their captivating pages, journeying to far-off lands and experiencing life’s most extraordinary tales. This sacred hour of literary exploration ignites a spark within me, filling my heart with joy and enlightening my mind with newfound perspectives.

From the tender age of 17, I discovered the enchantment of reading, inspired by my father’s unwavering love for the written word. As the years passed, my passion grew exponentially, blossoming into a radiant flame of curiosity and wonder. In 2009, the magic reached its pinnacle, and my love affair with books became an inseparable part of my life.

Through the mystical realms of literature, I found a sanctuary in challenging times, where hope triumphs over adversity and positivity prevails against all odds. Books have gifted me with the courage to weather life’s storms, emerging stronger and more resilient on the other side.

My personal library is a treasure trove of boundless knowledge and imagination. Each book carefully chosen to accompany me on this captivating journey of growth and enlightenment. I have made it a sacred ritual to dedicate an hour each day to these cherished companions, absorbing at least ten pages, savoring every word as if it were a lifeline connecting me to worlds beyond my own.

In the enchanting labyrinth of stories, I have discovered a wellspring of energy, igniting my spirit and empowering my mind. These books have become more than ink and paper; they are confidants, mentors, and allies guiding me on the path to greatness.

Reading is the gateway to boundless possibilities and profound insights. Through the magic of books, I have unlocked the doors to empathy and understanding, walking in the shoes of characters from every walk of life. The weight of stress and worries vanishes, as I’m whisked away to enchanted lands where dreams take flight.

With each turn of the page, my vocabulary flourishes, and creativity dances like a spirited fire. The boundless stories have become a springboard for my own growth, inspiring me to embrace change, seize opportunities, and unleash my true potential.

Books are not just a solitary endeavor; they have the power to unite hearts and minds. In book clubs and reading circles, we share our journeys, exchanging laughter, tears, and ideas. These connections create a tapestry of humanity, bound by the shared love for storytelling.

As I conclude my nocturnal rendezvous with books, I am filled with an indomitable spirit. Each tale, each lesson, and each character’s triumph become a part of me, igniting a fire within that propels me forward on the grand adventure of life.

Dear reader, I urge you to embark on this wondrous expedition into the realm of books. Let them be your allies, confidants, and guiding lights, empowering you to conquer obstacles, nurturing your spirit, and illuminating the darkest corners of your mind. Embrace the magic, for within the pages lies a world of endless wonder and boundless possibilities, waiting to ignite the flames of inspiration within you. Happy reading!

When I was a child, I used to wonder about the purpose of human existence and why we are created. I questioned why we go through the cycle of being born, growing up, working hard to create a better life, only to ultimately face death. However, as I grew older, time became a valuable teacher and imparted important lessons on living a meaningful life.

I learned that life is not solely about pursuing self-interest, working hard, and accumulating wealth. Life holds much greater value when we extend a helping hand to others and bring meaning to their lives. By offering hope and support to those who are struggling, our own lives gain a deeper sense of purpose.

I came to understand that we are all part of a continuum. Countless individuals have come before us, fulfilling their responsibilities, growing up, receiving an education, working, and leaving behind something valuable for the next generation. In turn, we continue their legacy and, one day, pass on our own contributions to the next generation.

This realization led me to understand that the value of a human being is immeasurable and cannot be quantified. Each individual possesses inherent worth and dignity simply by being human. This worth arises from the unique qualities, capabilities, and potential that each person brings to the world.

Human beings possess remarkable abilities such as thinking, reasoning, creating, and connecting with others on emotional and intellectual levels. We have the power to dream, set goals, and work towards achieving them. Our capacity for growth and self-improvement allows us to continuously evolve and make meaningful contributions to society.

Additionally, human beings have the capacity for empathy, compassion, and understanding. We can form deep and meaningful relationships, forge connections, and build communities based on shared values and experiences. This inherent social nature enables us to support and uplift one another, creating a sense of belonging and solidarity.

The value of a human being goes beyond individual qualities. Each person has a unique perspective, life story, and set of experiences that shape their identity. This diversity of perspectives enriches society, fostering innovation, creativity, and a deeper understanding of the world.

Recognizing and respecting the value of every human being is crucial for nurturing a just and inclusive society. It means treating individuals with dignity, irrespective of their background, race, gender, or other characteristics. Embracing this principle promotes equality, fairness, and the protection of basic human rights.

Ultimately, the value of a human being lies in their potential to contribute to the betterment of themselves, their communities, and the world at large. It is a recognition of the inherent worth and significance that every individual possesses by virtue of their humanity. By embracing and upholding this value, we can create a more compassionate, harmonious, and equitable world for all.